I wrote the following sentence in an email to a friend this week in regards to how each of our three daughters are handling the news of Kevin resigning from the church and the definite possibility of a move in our near future:
"It's a juggling act as a mom to respect and honor each of their emotions without making any of them feel like their emotion isn't the 'right' one. It's been quite the week!"
One of our daughters if very excited about the possibilities ahead. She doesn't seem too concerned about the unknown. She also isn't prone to crying or being sad about what is happening. All her conversations about what's happen are very matter of fact and she's very eager for what's next.
Another of our daughters is very sad about what is happening. She abhores change. She is the kid who refused to wiggle her loose teeth out. They'd hang there for days, even weeks, until there just wasn't any chance of them staying in any longer. For her, this is akin to a the greatest injustice that could happen to her. She needs to talk with her friends. She needs to cry with her friends. She needs a lot of time to process what is happening.
Our other daughter has moments of sadness and moments of 'alright, I'm game for whatever's happening'. She hasn't talked to any of her friends about the possibility of moving. She has only told one friend that Kevin is leaving the church. She said that she's not going to talk about it until there is something to talk about. How pragmatic.
So, as you can see, we have three very different young ladies handling this in three very different ways! I have had some interesting conversations with each of them this week, helping them to respect their sisters' view points and reactions and to accept their own. Everyone deals with change and grief differently, and each person's way of dealing needs to be validated.
That has been my week......
"It's a juggling act as a mom to respect and honor each of their emotions without making any of them feel like their emotion isn't the 'right' one. It's been quite the week!"
One of our daughters if very excited about the possibilities ahead. She doesn't seem too concerned about the unknown. She also isn't prone to crying or being sad about what is happening. All her conversations about what's happen are very matter of fact and she's very eager for what's next.
Another of our daughters is very sad about what is happening. She abhores change. She is the kid who refused to wiggle her loose teeth out. They'd hang there for days, even weeks, until there just wasn't any chance of them staying in any longer. For her, this is akin to a the greatest injustice that could happen to her. She needs to talk with her friends. She needs to cry with her friends. She needs a lot of time to process what is happening.
Our other daughter has moments of sadness and moments of 'alright, I'm game for whatever's happening'. She hasn't talked to any of her friends about the possibility of moving. She has only told one friend that Kevin is leaving the church. She said that she's not going to talk about it until there is something to talk about. How pragmatic.
So, as you can see, we have three very different young ladies handling this in three very different ways! I have had some interesting conversations with each of them this week, helping them to respect their sisters' view points and reactions and to accept their own. Everyone deals with change and grief differently, and each person's way of dealing needs to be validated.
That has been my week......
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